Applications - Self-disclosure

• Choose for your audience - The people you speak to want to hear what is significant and what is worth the time taken to devote their attention. By that same note, they want to feel assured that you understand who it is you are speaking to and that you will keep things in a context appropriate to them.

• Remember to convey intent - This ties in with my first item: Remember when speaking that you show the intent behind your words to those you are speaking to. If you just lay information out without the intent you want others to take it in, then you are forcing them to apply their own filters which might distort what you meant.

• Be as honest as is appropriate - Honesty and sincerity are invaluable tools, but you do not always need to disclose all information to get your point across. Disclose only what is relevant to the topic, what conveys your intent, and what it is that will keep everyone communicating together.